Writing a Eulogy That Sounds Like Them: A Gentle Guide for Families

A eulogy is a gift. It doesn’t need perfect prose; it needs heart. Here’s a simple way to craft a eulogy that truly sounds like the person you’re honouring—wherever you’ll gather: Lismore, Ballina, Casino or South Grafton.

A clear, kind structure

• Opening: who you are and how you’re connected.

• Three snapshots: one early memory, one story that shows character, one recent moment that captures their spirit.

• Their loves: people, places, pastimes tailored to the town (a favourite café in Lismore, beach walks in Ballina, a local club in Casino, riverside picnics near South Grafton).

• What they taught us: values and sayings.

• Closing: gratitude and a simple farewell.

Prompts to get you started

• “If I had three words for them, they’d be…”

• “I still laugh about the time…”

• “They were at their happiest when…”

• “They taught me…”
  Write in short lines first; we’ll help shape it.

Keeping it human
Read it aloud. Trim long sentences. It’s okay to pause if emotions rise your love is allowed to show. Ask a friend to stand with you as a backup reader.

Local colour matters
Small, specific details bring a person close: market mornings in Lismore, fishing off Ballina, community sport in Casino, or a favourite Clarence River view from South Grafton. These textures turn a speech into a story.

Pair words with pictures
A short photo montage and thoughtfully designed service sheet help people follow along and remember. If relatives can’t be there, we’ll stream the service and share a recording later.

We’ll support you
Tell us if public speaking feels daunting. We’ll liaise with the celebrant, check the microphone and lectern height, print spare copies and keep a glass of water nearby. On the day, our quiet preparation helps you feel steady.

Remember: the best eulogies are honest, warm and specific. They sound like the person you love. We’ll stand beside you as you find those words.